Tuesday, August 04, 2009

New Beginnings.

Well I did say I would be back! God I have missed blogging.

The break up of a relationship is never easy, I feel like I have been dragged through a hedge backwards! You tend to go through many phases, anger, sadness, loneliness and at a total loss as to where it all went wrong.

There is one thing I am certain of, there will be no going back. Too many things have been said and done to hurt me, things I will never be able to forgive, and that makes me so sad. I thought I had found my soul mate, but obviously I was so wrong.

Well that's enough of that. As I have done before, I have decided self pity and recriminations never helped any body. Even though this episode of my life has left me sad and confused, wallowing in self pity is pointless.

My way of life won't change, living on a narrow boat is my passion. I have been staying at my Mums in her bungalow, where I was made welcome and more than comfortable, but being back on land and ensconced in bricks and mortar fills me with horror!

For me to stay on Tickety Boo was out of the question. We did come to an agreement that we would each have alternate weeks on the boat, until she is sold, but devastatingly for me John went back on his word.

I think that's enough of washing my dirty linen in public!

I had heard rumour that somebody on our mooring was maybe selling a boat, when I enquired about it the owner very kindly said I could stay on their boat for a couple of months, how thoughtful was that? I will always be truly grateful for this opportunity, as its got me back on the cut where I belong!

The boat is slightly smaller than Tickety, and yes I am missing her, but this little boat is really nice, and I may even consider buying her myself.

I have moved on T.F.T.T.M., I wont divulge the name just yet, maybe later. I bet those initials will have you guessing! Answers in the post please!

I moved on the boat on the first of August, new month, new start! I spent all of the first day cleaning, not that the boat was in a bad way, it just hadn't been used for months. Most of my time was spent evicting the many spiders that had taken up undisturbed residence! Once all moved in, tidy and organised I sat with a well earned cuppa, and reflected on how lucky I was in the circumstances, to be once again afloat! Thank you so very much to P and C for the very very kind gesture of letting me stay on their boat.

Bobby is settling in well and has just accepted we are on a different boat. I am so grateful to have him with me and hope and pray that it stays that way. He is my little soul mate now, and I would be heartbroken to lose him.

Tickety Boo is sadly now up for sale. After all we went through to get her to this stage. I would like to think I could buy John out, but don't know if that will be possible just yet, either way I will still be living afloat, whether on Tickety Boo, T.F.T.T.M or some other boat!

When I started this blog a couple of months ago I wrote that I wanted to share my happy, sometimes sad stories with you, this chapter is rather sad but happier times hopefully are on the horizon. Goodness knows what my blog will be called, if I some how manage to keep Tickety Boo the name will stay the same, if I can't your guess is as good as mine!

This is the first post of my new life, I hope you will continue on the journey with me, knowing me it will be a bumpy ride! Hold on tight!


Linda said...

That's the way to do it!!
All the best and good luck.
As an ex-liveaboarder I can sympathise with the need to be on the water.

Debbie said...

Thankyou Linda, I really appreciate your comment

Dave Winter said...

Good luck to you Debbie.If you get down go to my music site and listen to the music.


I do and it cheers me up again.
Take care.

Debbie said...

Thankyou Dave, that was really thoughtful of you.


Anonymous said...

Good luck Debbie from a fellow Gemini. I am so glad you are back on the cut, one day at a time with loads of posative thinking, a sprinkling of good people around you and your happier times are on the horizon.
We are just fitting out our narrow boat and it will be going into Fettlers Wharf Rufford fingers crossed in December

Michelle said...

Sorry did not leave you my name haha will get the hang of this tinternet thingy one day
Take care

John and Fiona on nb Epiphany said...

Hi Debbie

So sorry things have gone sour with that relationship - but glad the canal community has come up trumps for you.
Hope the sun comes up shining for you from now on, in every way

John & Fiona
nb Epiphany

Bottle said...


I could post all the 'normal' platitudes etc.

but I will not so,

Go for it girl, a new exciting life is ahead.

Heth said...

Welcome back Debs...!

TFTTM? My guess:

"To Forget The Trauma & Move-on"

erm, bet that's wrong, doesn't sound so good for a boat, but does for you personally...!

H x

Debbie said...

Well, what can I say? Thankyou all so much for your comments. I have had a down day today, but you lot have put the smile back on my face. I have so much to look forward to,meeting lovely people like you lot for a start! Thanks again.

Ps Michelle do you have a blog? If not you will have to let me know how you get on with your boat, bet you can't wait!

Michelle said...

Hi Debbie
hope today was better for you. I dont have a blog it only took me two hours to post the last comment.
It would probably take me days on just one days events, and as for photographs well that could be like a whole new world (akin to entering the twilight zone).
I know how to surf, in fact I am very good at that, reading other peoples blogs brilliant as for a blog myself well I always seem to get things abitty backity fronty.
I will let you know how the girl is coming on sorry the boat!!

Soulgirl said...

I'm sorry to hear about your problems and although it's a turning point what is round the corner may be exciting and happy. Positive karma coming your way Debbie and I hope you find a lovely boat all of your very own.

Sadly these things happen and I've come through a situation just like yours and couldn't be happier.

Good luck to you and hope I meet you out and about; we can share a bottle of wine and some stories :)

Nev Wells said...


Good to hear you have water under you again....keep blogging, blogs like yours are an inspiration and in my thinking the real deal honest, sharing sad and happy - all real life not just the good stuff.

Take care


Del and Al said...

Hi Debbie, sorry to hear about your troubles, but glad you're getting back on track and back on the cut again. Keep smiling, and keep blogging, and I hope happy times are round the corner for you.
Take care x

Debbie said...

Thankyou Del, Al and Nev, I am thinking positive, no more crying into my Pot noodle, ( not that I did anyway )! Onwards and upwards!
I think all you boat people are fab!

Starcross said...

Hi Debbie,
You don't know me but you do follow my blog so I hope you don't mind me leaving a comment on yours. I was sorry to hear of your troubles but have to say I think you are choosing to share them in a very sensitive and - as far as is possible - sensitive way. Finding a way to stay on the cut is the main thing!
Hope things work out for you.

Debbie said...

Thankyou Jim, these lovely comments lift my spirits and keep me strong!

Take Care Debbie.

Sue said...

Hey Deb
We are coming your way next week. Booked in the liverpool link for 20th and back 24th. If you have a free moment would love to wish you all the best x x Passing your arm but not going down as we will need to buy license (I think!?) Look out foe Cosy Toes and Mum and Dad on Cheshire Lad x Keep ya' chin up chuck cause you are doin' well x x x

Jenifer said...

Hi Debbie:
I found your site by mistake when looking for my sisters'. Her's is called "Just Tickety Boo" and when my computer pooched out I had to do a search on another computer to locate it so I could add it to my Bookmarks.
Anyway, even though I don't know you I was touched to read of your situation. I have never been one who believes in coincidence - even the awful stuff happens for a reason. Often, it's to make us stronger in an area we didn't realize needed to be. When you are in the thick of it and the light at the end of the tunnel seems no where to be found always remember that there are a lot of people who care for you and support you. Now is the time to draw on their support and if they are your true friends they will stick with you no matter what. Trust me, I know of what I speak! Living the boat life sounds wonderful. I live in a city that is at the southern tip of Lake Huron called Sarnia, Ontario. I have lived here all my life but have never owned a boat. Maybe..........someday.
Hang in there and I wish you all the best. The sun is on the horizon, it will show you the way.

Debbie said...

Thankyou Jenifer, I have sent you an email, I hope you got it, take care Debbie

Jenifer said...

Hi Debbie
I haven't received anything :(
I wonder if you spelled the email addy correctly.

Anonymous said...

A valuable post on positive thinking

Karim - Positive thinking

lois said...

Hi just came accross your blog and read the lot....what a journey so far....well done keep going and maybe we will meet some day..
Lois....MILLIMAIZE previously MAIZEE theres a story there

life afloat on nb tickety boo said...

Just reading back over this old post....for anybody out there wondering what T.F.T.T.M
stands for, the boat was called Tea For The Tiller Man!! Named after a song apparently!